I had to sit at my computer for a few minutes to understand what it was that I wanted to say about the concept of forgiveness. The word itself came to me from my heart and I knew it was important. The last few weeks have been a growing pain in my own journey of growth. Just this morning, I was interviewed at our local newspaper in regards to my book Scars Among Us. As we were talking, I heard myself say that the only way through this kind of trauma is through vulnerability and authenticity. It is through that process that we can heal, grow and evolve. But the question remains… when we have been hurt so deeply how do we forgive and if there was a God, why does he allow bad things to happen to us? A guiding light for me as been listening to Eckhart Tolle. His book A New Earth has had a profound influence in my life and how I live my life day to day. He has helped me piece together as to why bad things happen, and no it is not God’s fault. The way I see it is like this: We are eternal souls who chose to come to earth to experience being human. We all have a purpose for being here. Each of us are gifted with a body and a personality. When our personalities come together to serve our souls, which are entwined with the source, God, or whatever you want to call the infinite always has been source, then beauty and change for greatness happens. When our personalities do not serve the souls purpose is when bad things happen. God does not allow bad things to happen, we do.
Looking back on my journey, I can see the hand of the creator intervening in my own life despite the bad things that I have experienced. I believe firmly that I made it this far because of our creator, despite the pain that us humans can and do inflict on each other. I have never sexually assaulted anyone, murdered or done any of the atrocities done unto me. What I can say though is that in my deepest times of pain, I knew I had lashed out on my own loved ones. Just as the creator and my loved ones forgave me, I choose to forgive those who hurt me as it was the act of their pain they were living in that caused them to act. Deep within each of us is a precious soul. This understanding has helped me to forgive. Don’t get me wrong, there is always room for growth. Life is a journey!!